The doctor feels as if he meets the criteria but since he isn't 2 years behind in development they are very cautious to prescribe anything. WHO WAITS THAT LONG FOR THEIR CHILD TO FALL BEHIND?! We appreciate that the doctor is cautious as many doctors just diagnose and cover up a problem that may not even be there. The way he put it was "taking Tylenol to mask a fever, when we don't know what caused the fever." We agreed that we do not want him medicated unless it is very necessary. We were referred to 3 psychologists who are going to do further testing to see if it is just a certain subject he has problems with, if it is something deeper such as stress from an unstable home at his moms or something else. We also will let his regular psychologist know so that she can start looking for different things. So we'll be making appointments to have it looked into it.
Also we will be able to discuss our options as to which will be the best match for him depending on the outcome. I know that a lot of kids with ADHD if its not a severe case only use medication on school days, not weekends or summer breaks. He doesn't act out aggressively or anything, its merely he is unable to focus at school, is disruptive at school and even at home needs constant reminders. If it is something he has we are willing to do whatever it takes to work with him on overcoming this challenge and learning to control it so that no medication is necessary. Hopefully if we get custody he won't need it at all since he should have very little stress and a very loving home where they get attention and don't have to act for it, where they have guidelines and proper discipline rather than screaming and yelling like he deals with at her home.
The doctor was very clear on how important a good nights rest is which I believe to be one of the biggest reasons since he sleeps on a couch and doesn't get good rest. Plus this morning he said he was up at 6am watching TV because his brother woke him up. If he wasn't in a living room with a TV he probably would have went back to sleep.
I hate this waiting game. I just want them with us where they are fed nutritious meals and get the necessary 10-12 hours of sleep and love, affection and the chance to enjoy their childhood. I am so furious that we just have to sit back and watch as she causes more issues in these boys.